I know I’ve discussed men. Most of us have one or have had one and some of us have had multiples. There are several repetitive discussions that go on in most homes that have a man living within it’s confines. The problem, as I see it, is that we women have failed to band together to formulate acceptable textbook dialogue for our part of these discussions. I imagine that the amount of superfluous conversation that could be rerouted and redirected towards a happier and more productive man could increase as much as 65%. It is our failure, ladies, not to take this situation in hand.
Here is a sample conversation as it stands in my home at least four days a week:
Goose: Honey, I’ve FINALLY figured out what I’m doing off the tee.
Me: Uh huh
Goose: See my wrist? It was turned .007% too much towards my elbow.
Me: Uh huh
Goose: It’s all in the wrist. Look! (Displays same wrist position I’ve seen 6,798,444 times).
Me: You’re blocking the tv.
Goose: See how straight that is now? (Shoots imaginary ball across the bedroom)
Me: Uh huh
Now, as I see it, men are only interested in telling us things we’re not interested in hearing. Do they ever talk to us about upholstery fabric? Shoes? Our deep thoughts and feelings? He’s only blabbering on about this because he’s not getting a reaction. The other day, I feigned interest and the conversation went like this:
Goose: Honey, I’m going to go to the club and use my new swing. I’ll probably shoot a 30 or something.
Me: I’d like to go along! I have a new golf skirt! We can hit the range for a while and then walk (for the exercise) 18 holes.
Goose: Uh, yeah, that sounds…
Me: And then I might like to look at some new clubs myself…
Goose: Well, actually, someone already asked me to play…
And this “off the tee” conversation has not been repeated in two weeks. This is because men are really talking to themselves and don’t want us in their stuff. In the same way that I ask him to run with me, I’m really thinking heaven forbid I have to drag his lazy fanny around with me. The one time he went with me this summer the moaning and complaining was biblical in nature. Still, I ask to be nice.
Men, no matter how great they are (and the Goose is a truly great husband), are simple in the way a good dog is simple. They want to be acknowledged, they don’t want us to know what they’re up to all the time and the just want a pat on the head when they do a good trick. And then there is Jeff Foxworthy’s take on what men want that is the Goose’s standard answer when I ask him what he’s thinking, “I just want a beer and to see something naked”.
I love it that men don’t come with all the drama that goes along with women, but if a man gets sick, we all know how that goes. Recently, I’ve had the first cold in years. It has been pretty miserable and has caused me to snore. Snoring is something I’ve heard for years. Now that the tables have turned, the Goose is walking around, pale and wan, from loosing a few moment’s sleep. I could literally be giving birth and the man would ask the doctor about his own suspicious symptoms . Once, I had to see an infectious disease doctor and when the doctor was through examining me, the Goose actually said the sentence “now, back to me…” while I reclined on the table, close to death. This has become a code sentence in our family and I think it sums up men in general. Maybe people in general. We care about our loved ones. We really do, we just want to talk about our own stuff and figure out what we’re doing off the tee.